
A Fairytale Wedding at Lake Como's Historic Villa Balbiano

By Gloria Vanderbilt


By Gloria Vanderbilt
The story of Alyssa Choo and Erik Lowe began unexpectedly in November 2020, amidst the global pandemic, when a Tinder match brought them together. Alyssa, having recently graduated from Barnard College and residing downtown, connected with Erik, who had just relocated back to New York City from San Francisco with the flexibility of remote work. Their first encounter, a brunch in Nolita, was pleasant but didn't immediately signal the beginning of a grand romance. However, a social media post from Erik days later sparked Alyssa's interest, leading to a second, more intimate dinner date at Bond Street, which they had entirely to themselves—a unique advantage of dating during a lockdown. Their connection deepened rapidly from that point, becoming inseparable.
Four years into their relationship, the couple started discussing engagement rings, though Alyssa believed a proposal was still distant. Erik, however, had orchestrated a delightful surprise. For his 30th birthday, which typically gets overshadowed by holiday festivities, Alyssa had suggested a trip to Miami with friends. To her surprise, Erik enthusiastically took charge of all arrangements, from chartering a yacht and hiring a chef to making restaurant and club reservations. He even extended invitations to Alyssa's closest friends, which seemed natural given their shared friendships. The pivotal moment arrived on their yacht trip just before sunset, when Erik, during a heartfelt speech about the significant people in his life, turned to Alyssa, declaring his desire for her to be his 'forever chapter.' He then produced the ring from a Solo cup, knelt, and proposed, instantly transforming a birthday celebration into an engagement weekend.
Their union was solemnized on July 4, 2026, at the magnificent Villa Balbiano on Lake Como's western shore in Italy, a destination chosen for its profound sentimental value from previous cherished trips with family and friends. The couple meticulously planned the entire three-day celebration remotely from New York City, collaborating with Sofia Bute of The Heritage Collection and Buté Decor Studio. The bride's attire, styled by Cat Spanti of Keep in Touch with tailoring by Ann Hamilton of Ann Hamilton Vintage, exuded timeless glamour. The wedding ceremony, officiated by Erik's brother Christian, was an intimate affair with 54 guests, featuring an organically designed floral aisle and guests holding white parasols that created a 'garden party in the clouds' atmosphere. Following their vows, the newlyweds enjoyed a private champagne toast before sailing across Lake Como on a Riva boat, waving to their joyous guests. The evening progressed with a lively reception, tear-jerking speeches, and an impromptu dance party to ABBA's 'Dancing Queen,' culminating in a champagne tower toast and dazzling fireworks, marking a truly magical beginning to their married life.
This narrative celebrates the serendipitous beginnings and intentional crafting of a beautiful partnership. It underscores how genuine connection can flourish even in challenging times, leading to a profound union marked by thoughtful planning, shared joy, and deep affection. The couple's journey exemplifies the power of love to create moments of pure magic and lasting happiness.
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